|Posted on 31 March, 2015 at 0:45|
Ten ways to help take back control of your life...
If you had to relive your life all over again, would you want to? 'Would you advise a son or daughter to conform and expect little, or to soar and travel as far as the would like?
Many people believe that lifes just happens to them and they have little control over it all, but you can take ownership of your reality and mould it based on your main thoughts and focus. If you have felt frustrated or unhappy with the direction your life is going in, these ten tips could help you change your life - starting TODAY.
- 1. Understand that life is not happening to you - it is responding to you.
Start to cultivate positive thoughts so you can create a higher quality life. The energy that you give off begins with your own mind, positive thoughts and actions will start seeing positive things happen (and vice versa). We are cruel to ourselves, our internal talk is often very negative and this really does have a bearing on us. You make your reality based on what you repeatedly think, so be positive.
- 2. Never give your power away to anything outside of You.
Many of us find it more convenient to place blame on things or people outside of ourselves. If we don't like our job, we blame the boss, if we catch a cold, we blame it on someone else and not our immune system. Become aware of how many times a day a blame thought comes into your brain - then try to turn it around. Taking ownership of thoughts makes a big difference.
- 3. Listen to your heart.
Opinions of others about directions you should take with your life are only their thoughts projected onto you. You know your own heart better than anyone else, don't let anyone dictate your life. The only way to live a purposeful life is through your own heart and passion - so start listening to your own self.
- 4. Learn to say no to things.
Taking charge of your life means getting honest with yourself about all aspects of your life. Saying NO takes practice, yet brings such a feeling of calm and power - and, this will surprise you - people respect you more for not being taken advantage of.
- 5. Take charge of your own health.
As long as you have your health, you have everything. Make a pact with yourself to practice a healthier, more wholesome lifestyle that includes lots of raw fruits and vegetables, clean, fresh water, adequate sleep, and moderate exercise. By making small changes each day, you can transform your health and consequently increase your vitality and happiness. Honour your body and choose foods and drinks that will give you life.
- 6. Look for a new job if it makes you unhappy.
None of us came here just to pay bills and taxes; we came here to change the world. If your job makes you feel like just another cog in the wheel and doesn’t allow you to follow your true purpose, don’t think twice about leaving it behind. While we do live in a monetary system where we must pay to survive at the moment, plenty of people have created their own jobs that support their highest mission. With a little elbow grease and commitment, you can do this too – think about how liberating it would feel to do something you love and still get paid for it.
- 7. Forget about 'normal'.
If you really want to take command of your life, you will have to get comfortable with living to the beat of your own drum. Too many people fall in line just because it feels safe, not because it feels right. They fear others judging them, and don’t want to become alienated or ridiculed. However, even if the uncharted path seems lonely at first, you will never know what lies ahead if you never make the journey. Create your life on your terms and don’t worry what others think – you didn’t come here to blend in, you were born to stand out!
- 8. Do more of what makes you happy.
Many people shy away from new opportunities or activities because they fear failure. Or, they live in fear of what others think. However, both of these fears can feel like prison if you allow them to stand in the way of things that really make you happy. The longer you wonder about the outcome, the more time you waste ruminating instead of living. Living intentionally means taking charge of your own happiness, so take action and start following your bliss.
- 9. Live within your means and clear out your clutter!
This one can totally renovate your life because you will have to look at what you truly need to survive…do you really need to go shopping for new clothes every week? Do you absolutely need that new iPhone, or can you still use the one you currently have? Many people spend way more than they earn and then feel stressed because of their subsequent financial situations. Sell what you don’t really need, and only buy things that add to your well-being. Set a day when you are home and go through your home, one room at a time, if objects aren't useful or sentimental, are they actually needed? Clean, clear and fresh brings clarity to your mind.
- 10. Become more mindful/purposeful
Meditation can greatly help with this; becoming more aware of yourself and the universe will teach you to take full responsibility for yourself and what happens to you. It will give you more discipline and mental strength, and take you out of the habit of living on autopilot. As the master of your reality, you must take full responsibility for the quality of life you lead. Cultivating more awareness and purposefulness will allow you to move into a space of actively creating your life instead of watching passively from the sidelines.